High self-esteem people, on the other hand, uplift, empower, inspire. They are the Oprahs of your personal world. They make you feel good about yourself, as if their own sense of worth is contagious.
If you’re a woman (or man) with high self-esteem, what would you do that you’re maybe not doing now?
You would trust yourself.
You would take good care of your health, for one thing, because you value your body too much to trash it. You would honor your strengths and talents — and also your weaknesses, your limitations.
Instead of feeling threatened by your imperfections (and other people who might point them out), you would learn how to work around them and form partnerships with people who complement you.
You would feel the fear but do it anyway — because you would know, come hell or high water, that you can handle it. You would go after the goals that are worthy of you.
You wouldn’t worry so much about what other people think. You wouldn’t confuse their voices with your north-star inner voice. You would say no. You would say yes. You would bring all of yourself to your work, to your life, because you would recognize that every so-called vice has a virtuous flipside, every shadow contains a glint of gold.
You would honor your relationships. You would seek your place in the bigger picture. You would empower others. You would look in the mirror and see the cellulite on your thighs, the sag to your breasts, and recognize that you are still innately fascinating; you don’t have to be “born beautiful,” as Diana Vreeland put it, “to be wildly attractive.” (Edith Piaf would agree.)
You would trust yourself.
You would educate your intuition as best you can, and listen to it, and let it lead you, step by step, day by day, even and especially when it takes you into uncharted territory. You would become the ultimate explorer of you. You would tell your story to the world through how you live it, and how you own it.
“Developers are like the honey badger. They don’t care. They go where the money is, and to create revenue-generating experiences they created apps. Millions of apps to encapsulate experiences in bite-sized, constantly updated little nuggets. We need the same kinds of building blocks for the IoE. Durable and useful building blocks that allow an ecosystem to bloom because developers and manufacturers can create experiences knowing that these building blocks are available for their use. And consumers must feel confident that their investments represent sustained value. So any such building blocks need to be openly available and interoperate on many dimensions: across OSes, across fields of use (car/home/office/mobile), across languages—and across all vendors. It can’t be the experience that each smart TV will require another app on every brand of smartphone in order to work. That won’t create an ecosystem. It can’t be that a washing machine can only interact with same-brand devices. That won’t create an ecosystem.”—There May Be An App For That, But It’s A Broken Model
“Public perception of typography may be that it’s an insular details game, a culture of obsessive nuance. That couldn’t be further from the truth for Nadine Chahine, a young Lebanese type designer who believes that type holds the key to literacy—and by extension, education—in the Arab world. It’s a micro level of detail with a macro impact.”—Could Type Promote Literacy
“Your customers know more than you about what will succeed, and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you’ll have a growing pool of users. Humility leads to an earnest and perpetual desire to understand the people who want your app, and thus better understand what they enjoy. You should be hungry to support and understand them.”—Fast Company
In a refreshing and deeply touching TED talk, Cameron Russell honestly discusses the life of a model through the lens of its cultural implications. Touching upon the over sexualization of females to racial prejudice, Russell’s wise examination of how the images of models impact our lives on a global scale brings forward thought-provoking issues on discrimination, mental / emotional health, girls’ education, and perpetuating broken societal structures.
“Even though the canvas of your life is painted with daily experiences, behaviors, reactions, and emotions, you’re the one controlling the brush. What a wonder! It would have been nice to know this at 21. I could have saved myself a lot of heartache and self-doubt. But to fully understand, at any age, that you are the artist of your own life — and can use as many colors and textures as possible (and erase when necessary!)… now, that’s a revelation.”—Oprah
“The primary thing that any technology startup must do is build a product that’s at least 10 times better at doing something than the current prevailing way of doing that thing. Two or three times better will not be good enough to get people to switch to the new thing fast enough or in large enough volume to matter. The second thing that any technology startup must do is to take the market. If it’s possible to do something 10X better, it’s also possible that you won’t be the only company to figure that out. Therefore, you must take the market before somebody else does. Very few products are 10X better than the competition, so unseating the new incumbent is much more difficult than unseating the old one.”—Horowitz
The greatest satisfaction you can obtain from life is your pleasure in producing, in your own individual way, something of value to your fellowmen. That is creative living!
When we consider that each of us has only one life to live, isn’t it rather tragic to find men and women, with brains capable of comprehending the stars and the planets, talking about the weather; men and women, with hands capable of creating works of art, using those hands only for routine tasks; men and women, capable of independent thought, using their minds as a bowling-alley for popular ideas; men and women, capable of greatness, wallowing in mediocrity; men and women, capable of self-expression, slowly dying a mental death while they babble the confused monotone of the mob?
For you, life can be a succession of glorious adventures. Or it can be a monotonous bore.
To my mind, the world would be a much pleasanter and more civilized place to live in, if everyone resolved to pursue whatever is closest to his heart’s desire. We would be more creative and our productivity would be vastly increased.
Altogether too much emphasis, I think, is being placed on what we ought to do, rather than what we want to do.
“For behaviorally informed design, first isolate the behavior that needs to be changed. Differentiate between intention failures and follow-through failures. How can behavioral insights be integrated into effective design and policy solutions?”—Kaltura